Dear Kit,
What do you do if you like two guys in the same fraternity?
Just about 1,300 students attend Albion, so naturally there’s an extremely small dating pool. Things like this are going to happen.
Here’s what you can do:
- Remind yourself of the qualities you like most in a guy. Whether it’s a good sense of humor, an easy-going personality, someone who has strong family values or someone who loves playing sports, take some time to figure it out. Write it down if you have to. Doing this will help give you a better idea of which guy you think you’d be more compatible with.
- Spend one-on-one time with each of them, outside of their fraternity.
If you typically hang out with these guys at parties, you might want to give yourself a chance to see how you like them in a different setting. Go on a Frosty Dan’s or Gina’s date. Take a walk in the nature center. If you love doing a certain activity, ask them to join you (at separate times)! You might be attracted to both of them, but I’m sure that you’ll have more in common with one over the other.
- Aside from all this advice, you have to take into account how you feel. I bet you probably already know the answer to what you want to do. “Pick the one that makes your heart tingle, whatever makes you happy. Who cares if they’re in the same frat. They’ll get over it. It’s not about them, it’s about you,” Brighton, Mich., sophomore, Shannon Kahl says.
However, if you aren’t looking for a relationship and just want to have fun, you don’t necessarily have to choose one or the other. Be prepared for what’s going to happen though if one of them gets hurt. If you aren’t serious about either of them, they aren’t going to be serious about you.
Just be upfront, and you’ll be fine. Best of luck!
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